Service-Oriented or Self-Oriented

Service-Oriented or Self-Oriented

With the stroke of midnight just over five minutes away on the US East Coast, many of us will celebrate what Christians consider one of the the most important holidays of our faith…Christmas.  For those of us who find the season and the reason a joyous one of praise, reflection, and thanksgiving for all of our many blessings, I encourage us to pray for and speak life and restoration into the lives of those for whom this time of year is anything but a joyous occasion.  Some people have experienced the loss of a loved one, are un/underemployed, going through separation or divorce, or they may be in a new city or Country that is far away from family, friends, and familiar acquaintances; or have other life issues pressing on them and may find it difficult to celebrate.  They may be strong believers, but one of life’s curve balls has zapped their strength and rendered them weak at the moment.  But for the grace of God, it could have been us and may have been in the past, and/or may be us in the future.  We each have our turn.

Lets look for the opportunity to be a blessing to someone else who may be struggling with a life challenge.  I have a person who is like my Mom away from home who is battling stage 4 breast cancer.  She used to love my cornbread dressing, but she barely has an appetite these days.  What I have decided to do is take her a plate just in case she has at least enough of an appetite to nibble a little of what used to be one of her favorite foods.  I will also visit with her a little after Christmas to keep her company.  Sometimes I just let her talk about what she is experiencing.  We sometimes do not know just how much such a gesture can positively impact someone because we are giving of ourselves.

My husband and I are also endeavoring to teach our son the importance of caring about what others may be going through and to look for opportunities to be of service to others.  We are teaching him to not focus so much on what he receives, but rather on ways that he can give to others. We are teaching him that when you give of yourself that it can be worth more than any gift bought with money.

One of things that I am most proud of during the holiday season is that most appear to show a bit more compassion towards each other, but somehow and sometime between the day after Christmas and mid-January, most of that compassion seems to disappear.

I am challenging each of us to lets strive to take the focus off ourselves and to make this season of kindness last throughout the year. Let us show the fruit of the Spirit towards each other by being loving, patient, kind selfless, etc.  Remember, we are God’s representatives to the world everyday, not just a couple of months out of the year.  And just as Jesus often reminded man, we are here to serve, not to be served.  I can guarantee you that something amazing will happen…even if you were feeling down, your spirits will be lifted somehow.  If we continue to make it a life habit we will find it easier to deal with life’s many challenges because we will always remember that even when things are off-kilter, we still have many blessings to count.

Merry Christmas to everyone!

Author: FirstWeb

Who Is Cynthia B. Okonkwo? I am a wife and a mom who is a people person by heart. I live in metro-Atlanta and work as a Human Resources professional and have over twenty-four years experience in the field. My experience includes Compensation, Training, Recruiting, Employee Relations, Benefits, and Selection Procedure Development; however, Employee Relations is my passion because I enjoy interacting with others and helping them to solve problems. I became interested in Human Resources while on a work-study assignment during my sophomore year in undergraduate school. I chose management as my major because I was not quite certain what I wanted to do after college and I knew that an off-shoot of Business Administration was a safe, general choice that could help me get into a number of career fields. My work-study assignment was as an assistant to the campus Director of Career Services. There, I learned to make cold calls to area businesses to seek out employment opportunities for students and alumni. I also learned how to format vacancy announcements and resumes. Since writing had always been one of my strengths, I enjoyed my assignment so much that I requested to be reassigned to that department for most of the remainder of my undergraduate career. My Director also provided resources on job interview preparation and she allowed me to type resumes for students who did not have one and charge $1 per page to make a few extra bucks. I got a full-time job immediately after graduation, but it wasn’t in Human Resources; however, I had a Vice President who took me under his wings and allowed me to review employment applications for job openings at the Distribution Center where I worked, so this helped to strengthen my resume. It took me about two and a half years to secure my first full-time job in the field of human resources where I became a trained test developer for the State’s Government Merit System. From there my career has continued to grow. My blog was born out of my desire to write a book that provides practical job search tips and advice, from a spiritual, holistic perspective. After having drafted about three chapters, I got busy with grad school and obtained my MBA; got married and started a family. In 2013, I became SPHR (Sr. Professional in Human Resources) certified. I started seeing other people’s blogs, became interested and thought that blogging might be a great alternative, or spring board to completing my book, so here we are today. My sincere hope is that what I write will help someone. Enjoy!

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